Discussion from Chapters 10 and 11

During October’s Staff Training, we discussed Chapters 10 and 11.  We looked at “misbehavior” as it is related to development.  Often, we as adults can recognize and identify developmental characteristics related to cognitive, language, and physical development.  It is also important for us to recognize that social/emotional characteristics also have developmental tendencies and levels.  The challenge in working with this area of development, is recognizing the behaviors as part of a child’s learning process and, therefore, an opportunity for us to teach vs. a need to punish for “inappropriate” behavior.  Many children do not have the language or the skills needed to identify their emotions or to express them appropriately.  As new skills are being introduced, children must search for the new pattern, test the new skill, and evaluate the skill’s effectiveness.  This process is cyclical, often repeated numerous times before becoming a learned behavior.  Our brains are naturally pattern-seeking.  When new information is presented to us, our brains search to see where this new information fits into our prior knowledge base.  We, as adults, can organize and assimilate much more quickly.  We have prior knowledge and experiences on which to draw.  We also have the ability to “talk to ourselves” (inside our heads) to examine the consequences of the actions and behaviors we may choose.  Children do not possess this skill until around the age of 8.  That means, for us at the Weekday School, it is our job to (a) know this information about our children, and (b) provide support and scaffolding as children become acclimated to new patterns of behavior.

Here are the notes that we used during our discussion of “Developing Misbehavior.”  If you should have any questions about the slides, feel free to contact us or post a comment.   Notes Chapters 10 and 11

Consider the following quote:

Conscious Discipline®

“If a child doesn’t know how to read, we teach.
If a child doesn’t know how to swim, we teach.
If a child doesn’t know how to multiply, we teach.
If a child doesn’t know how to drive, we teach.
If a child doesn’t know how to behave, we…..

teach?….. punish?

Why can’t we finish the last sentence as automatically as we do the others?”

~ Herner, 1998

Remember:  We are all in this together!

Our assignment for November:  Skim Chapters 1 – 3 to get an overview of the skills and powers associated with loving guidance.  In November, we will be discussing Chapter 4:  “Assertiveness:  Saying ‘No’ and Being Heard.”


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